Happiness

As I read for people I am constantly asked about happiness. The search for happiness is often overrun by the action of looking for it.
Happiness is an emotion, like anger and sadness, but the happiness that seems to be the one that we all search for is actually bliss.
This is the heightened state of happiness, the one that is reserved for the really wonderful times in our lives, it is impossible to find this everyday.

I find that most people seem to feel pressed to succeed in this day and age, as self esteem is measured by success by so many shallow people that you meet along the way. Have you noticed that people immediately ask when they meet you ‘what do you do?’

It is strange how the average person thinks that a hard worker deserves success and happiness, so to them money of course must mean moral superiority.

This is a problem really and the question is ‘are people good or important’ which is best.
This question always brings status anxiety.
This is the anxiety I see around so many that feel that they have to have a certain status, this is pushed upon us from an early age, a sense that we have to do well to be ‘good’.
This is also pushed on us every day with advertising, the desire to have things that we see, because they are sure to bring us happiness.

Also we feel that we have to have social interaction and social relationships to find happiness. But the truth is that a lot of our unhappiness is bought to us by those close relationships, the judgemental behaviour of those around us and the desire to please others.
This pleasing desire is especially high with females, I do see this a lot. It is like a vicious circle, do the pleasing, be judged, do it all over again. Hope to do it better next time. All in the search for happiness, love and acceptance.
As happiness is an emotion you would think that the opposite is sadness, so if we are not sad we should be happy – never seems to quite hit the spot.
Deciding to find our happy place is always fraught with danger, because we remember the times in the past that we had a happy time and then wonder how we can recreate that time.
But the fact is that we will encounter many emotions each day, satisfaction is gained through the good emotions, dissatisfaction with the bad. This is what being a human is.

Preventing the low times is not easy, we all experience times of sadness when we lose someone or face a difficult time. But these times are not prevalent in our lives; we have just the normal days to account for most of the time.

Knowing that the little things in life that dog us are not really unhappiness, and gauging the huge from the small is something that we have to work at.
Annoyances are not unhappiness.
They are annoyances.
Amazingly science buffs will say that it has been proven that some people are born ‘not happy’, that some people have a tendency to be chronically dissatisfied. I am sure you know someone like this; nothing is right with these people.
There is an answer to this as it has also been proven that positive attitudes and self searching and positive affirmation can turn this around.
I know from my guide that setting goals is important, but for some people they set goals that are not firm. If you keep setting huge goals and then fail to make adequate progress, then life dissatisfaction pours in.
Setting a goal to win a million dollars is not a life goal, what you need to do is set your goals in a way that they are real and viable. If you want the million to buy a computer, make your goal that you want a computer, or if it is a new car, set the goal for a new car, put down the make and colour.
If your goal is to win the lottery, then it is not a distinct set goal. The lottery could be fifteen dollars for your share.
So your needs are significant in the search for happiness.
The search for self satisfaction is also a direction to happiness. Settle the little things one by one so that you are not always waiting for something to be solved. Satisfy yourself by having no outstanding concerns that are hanging around from the past.
Self satisfaction is one of the key things that will give you a good sense of inner happiness.
Health is also a great key to feeling good about yourself, so looking after yourself is paramount to having an even life path.
A start to finding happiness is in you, not in those around you. Trying to get others to do what you want does not make for a happy situation; it just makes for an aggravating situation.
 

Blessings,

Tricia